Regular wood charcoal is a good desiccant when dehydrated. For dehydration it's enough to expose it direct sunlight for 3-4 hours or dehydrate it in an oven up to 110 °C. There's an equilibrium between RH and m.c. of the seeds. When the RH is about 15% the m.c. of the seeds are about 5%, this is a safe m.c. for storing seeds. For measuring the RH the best way is using a hygrometer. You don't have to buy a laboratory level hygrometer, regular ones are working good when calibrated. BTW, calibration of a hygrometer is not difficult, it's really easy.